Conflicts

   Conflicts come free with any relation we have; with friends, parents(oh! We fight them so much), lovers, life partners, siblings and even fellow co-workers. Arguments are natural as we all are separate individuals. Born with different set of values, we think differently. What we can do about it is conveying our discernment patiently, not making it seem nasty. Make sure your opinion on the matter is put across, at the same time, hear what others have got to say on the topic as well. I believe in carefully weighing every perspective when I’m a part of very important discussion. For casual ones, I just keep quite most of the time, partly because I won’t be much interested in the topic or I just say what I think when asked. Often, topics involving bullshit are also given importance. Watch out for such gossips and stay out, say, how bad it is that colleague’s sister’s friend’s husband is a drunkard, how unhappy your neighbor is when his brother-in-law got a pet, why is your classmate’s friend’s girlfriend unhappy. Uuugghhh! It’s unlikely that these things will ever matter to you.
    My point is, only when a topic is worthy, only when you feel the need to stand up for something, fight for it. Don’t argue over trivial matters that are light years away from you. Choose your conflicts wisely. And, when you do heat up in a conversation, realise that it’s alright. Difference of opinion is an asset. It reflects your individuality. But, as I said, be respectful. Not everybody will like you. Not everyone will nod heads at your statements. Take the negations and be humble enough to acknowledge someone who enlightened you when you were wrong.

Handle your emotions,
Prerana